It only took me a good three times to finally realize my own mistakes on going natural. Rocking my hair in its natural state is something that I’ve always been interested in, but I kept getting discouraged and impatient. I would see other women wearing their own hair and would question if I could ever really do it.
First Let Me Say
I love my wigs and extensions. I don’t only wear them as a protective style, I wear them because I love them. Most likely, I will never stop wearing them. In the same breath, I’m very curious to know the natural state of my tresses. What does my hair really look like? I would like to know please.
Why It Took 3 Times
Here is my cycle: I would start the transition and then I would start watching a ton of natural hair youtube videos. I would then start to get overwhelmed with the huge array of products. Next, I would spend a ton of money on purchasing these unnecessary products. Last, I would spend way too much time in my hair……mimicking all of the processes that I seen on Youtube. By then, I’m done and back to slapping perm in my hair. Easy Breezy!
My Mistakes On Going Natural
I am almost completely natural. I have a few straight pieces left in the front. What actually works for me is keeping it simple. I am a busy person so I don’t have hours to spend in my hair playing with all of these oils and such. One day, I watched a video of a girl who said exactly what I needed to hear. She said to just keep your routine simple. That’s it! Moisturize and seal daily. Perform a deep condition once a week. If I have time to do more, than so be it. Other than that, LEAVE YOUR HAIR ALONE! That’s exactly what I do and this is the furthest I’ve been in my natural journey.
Lisa A La Mode, a blogger and blog coach, mentioned to me that once she accepted her hair OWN pattern and stop trying to manipulate it into someone else’s, that it became easy to her. I thought that was a really good point and had to question myself. I had purchased a ton of products trying change my hair into a pattern that wasn’t even my own.
With That Being Said
I don’t have some deep reason for transitioning. I don’t feel like it’s going to change me as a woman or anything like that. I just want to see my hair in its natural state in the healthiest condition ever. One last reason, is being able to switch it up. One day, I could be wearing a wig and then my natural hair the next. I love having options. There you have it. We often overthink, building and building, yet forget about the simple foundation.
What are some mistakes that you’ve made in transitioning? Are you relaxed and thinking about going natural…or not? Comment below!